Crossroads
"Love is like a traffic light,
there are three colors which becomes a guide for us to know
when to stop, to let go an take action.
STOP
"Loving someone so much doesn't always mean
they're the right one for us."
Hindi laging may happy ending kapag nagmamahal because
true love never ends
May mga pagkakata on na mararamdaman mo rin ang sakit na
dulot ngpagmamahal mo.
Masakit isiping may mga taong hindi kayang magpahalaga sa mga
taong nagmamahal sa kanila.
Sabi nga..
"Its better to accept the fact that you are
not appreciated than to insist yourself to someone
who never really see your worth."
Habang patuloy mo minamahal ang taong yun mas lalo kang masasaktan
dahil....
natatakot kang tanggapin ang
maaari pang managyari
na ang taong buong puso mong minahal ay bulag sa
pagmamahal mo.
hindi porket mahal mo ang taong yun sya na talaga
ang para sayu
natatakot ka na mawala ang taong pinakamamahal mo
pero sya ba takot na mawala ka?
LETTING GO
"Letting go doesn't mean
giving up, but rather accepting that there are things
that cannot be."
may mga bagay sa mundo na hindi nakatakda para sa atin.
Maaring ang mga bagay na ninanais natin na maging sa atin sana
ay iyon pang hindi kailanman magiging atin
kailangan mong matutong magparaya
"let go" upang maka move on a maka get over tayo sa sakit ng nakaraan
Loving someone is setting them free letting them go.
MASAKIT?
OO.. para sa katulad mong nagmamahal..
never say good bye
because good bye means going away
and going away means forgetting to let go
its not to deny but to accept..
The hardest things to do is letting go not because
you want to but because you have to..
may mga taong darating sa buhay natin na syang magbabangon sa atin
sa kabila ng pait ng nakalipas
wag nating isarado ang puso natin
dahil sa tayuy nagparaya
nagmahal
o nasaktan
Kung hindi may taong handang pumasok muli.
TAKE ACTION
"while someone breaks your heart, another someone else is
waiting to fix it.
Proceed with caution " careful forethought to avoid danger or harm.'
Natatakot tayung masaktan...
natatakot tayung harapin ang pweding mangyari
Natatakot tayung magmahal muli..
Kaya nga nauso ang salitang "Courage'
yan ang kailangan natin to take action"
Kung ang traffic light may yellow para sa caution sign
sa love ganun din kung alam nating masasaktan lang tayu
at di maaring pumapel
huwag na natin pahirapan masyado ang sarili natin
wag na tayung magsumiksik pa
STOP, LET Go, TAKE ACTION...
Sunday, September 12, 2010
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Forgetting Someone in 8 Steps: Mending a Broken Heart
Step 1:
Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's good! When you cry, you let go of part of your anger and hurt so you can feel less heavy. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go. The main thing here is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her go!
Step 2:
Get busy! When you're trying to get someone out of your head, you need to put other things inside of it. In other words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, you just need to get distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel. It doesn't matter what are you going to do--the important thing is to find something to do. Find a hobby, find something you enjoy doing, something to keep your mind busy. If your mind is busy, it doesn't have time or space to think about the person you're trying to forget.
Step 3:
Spend some time with your friends. Friends are always great to have in this kind of situation! Friends can make you feel good about yourself and get you distracted very easily. They will certainly make you laugh and make you see that you're way more important than you think! The only warning is: Ask them not to talk about the person you're trying to forget. If they start bringing the topic up in every conversation, you won't be able to forget, and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry. So be honest and ask them not to talk about it!
Step 4:
Avoid the person! Try not to go to places you know you can meet that person. When you're trying to forget someone and you two keep seeing each other, it gets hard to get over it. If you meet him/her somewhere, just be nice and kind
, but find an excuse to go away as fast as you can! If you work or study with him/her and you can't avoid seeing him/her, just try not to look and not to talk too much. Just be gentle and keep busy all the time so you won't have excuses to look at him/her or to chat.
Step 5:
Go out and see some different faces! Being at home gives you more time to think about it, which makes the process even more difficult. So even if you're not feeling excited or you're in a bad mood, just put on your best clothes, best shoes, best smile, call some friends and go somewhere nice where you can dance, drink, listen to some music. And the most important: See some different faces! When you go out, you notice that the person you're trying to forget is not the only one who's got a perfect smile and an amazing voice...thank god, there are other interesting people around the world, too!
Step 6:
Avoid every kind of romantic thing! If you're trying to forget someone, you'd better not watch romantic movies or listen to romantic songs...it makes you feel bad and you will certainly remember the person you're trying to get rid of. It doesn't matter if it's a song you love or if it's playing on the radio...just change the station or do something else! Put on some happy songs, dancing songs, watch some comedies, terror movies, whatever...you just need to avoid the romantic things for now!
Step 7:
Take good care of yourself. Women tend to run for some kind of self-destruction when they're hurt. If we break up our perfect relationship, then we have no reason to get our nails done anymore and the only thing that gives us comfort is chocolate and sugar. That way, the only thing we do is to become less attractive and lessen our self-confidence. So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, get your nails and hair done...do whatever you can so you can feel more pretty and confident!
Step 8:
Accept the process! You can be really strong and it's still going to hurt. The process takes time and you have to accept that! You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved for 2 years...and you can't pretend to be strong if you feel like crying. Just face your pain and accept that it's not easy and it's going to take some time. When you're patient with yourself and your situation, things tend to get easier...
Well, of course, forgetting someone is not easy to do nor is it easily explained in just 8 steps. But there are some things that make the process a lot smoother. As I said, it takes time and it's hard but I'm sure you can do it! The only thing that is really, really important is: It all depends on you! Don' ever forget that! If you want to forget someone, then you will, there is no doubt! Even if it takes a long time, even if you have to be really strong...you will be! In that kind of situation we usually find out that we are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for! So believe that. Believe that, take a deep breath and move on! Your life's waiting for you, baby!
Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's good! When you cry, you let go of part of your anger and hurt so you can feel less heavy. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go. The main thing here is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her go!
Step 2:
Get busy! When you're trying to get someone out of your head, you need to put other things inside of it. In other words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, you just need to get distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel. It doesn't matter what are you going to do--the important thing is to find something to do. Find a hobby, find something you enjoy doing, something to keep your mind busy. If your mind is busy, it doesn't have time or space to think about the person you're trying to forget.
Step 3:
Spend some time with your friends. Friends are always great to have in this kind of situation! Friends can make you feel good about yourself and get you distracted very easily. They will certainly make you laugh and make you see that you're way more important than you think! The only warning is: Ask them not to talk about the person you're trying to forget. If they start bringing the topic up in every conversation, you won't be able to forget, and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry. So be honest and ask them not to talk about it!
Step 4:
Avoid the person! Try not to go to places you know you can meet that person. When you're trying to forget someone and you two keep seeing each other, it gets hard to get over it. If you meet him/her somewhere, just be nice and kind
, but find an excuse to go away as fast as you can! If you work or study with him/her and you can't avoid seeing him/her, just try not to look and not to talk too much. Just be gentle and keep busy all the time so you won't have excuses to look at him/her or to chat.
Step 5:
Go out and see some different faces! Being at home gives you more time to think about it, which makes the process even more difficult. So even if you're not feeling excited or you're in a bad mood, just put on your best clothes, best shoes, best smile, call some friends and go somewhere nice where you can dance, drink, listen to some music. And the most important: See some different faces! When you go out, you notice that the person you're trying to forget is not the only one who's got a perfect smile and an amazing voice...thank god, there are other interesting people around the world, too!
Step 6:
Avoid every kind of romantic thing! If you're trying to forget someone, you'd better not watch romantic movies or listen to romantic songs...it makes you feel bad and you will certainly remember the person you're trying to get rid of. It doesn't matter if it's a song you love or if it's playing on the radio...just change the station or do something else! Put on some happy songs, dancing songs, watch some comedies, terror movies, whatever...you just need to avoid the romantic things for now!
Step 7:
Take good care of yourself. Women tend to run for some kind of self-destruction when they're hurt. If we break up our perfect relationship, then we have no reason to get our nails done anymore and the only thing that gives us comfort is chocolate and sugar. That way, the only thing we do is to become less attractive and lessen our self-confidence. So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, get your nails and hair done...do whatever you can so you can feel more pretty and confident!
Step 8:
Accept the process! You can be really strong and it's still going to hurt. The process takes time and you have to accept that! You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved for 2 years...and you can't pretend to be strong if you feel like crying. Just face your pain and accept that it's not easy and it's going to take some time. When you're patient with yourself and your situation, things tend to get easier...
Well, of course, forgetting someone is not easy to do nor is it easily explained in just 8 steps. But there are some things that make the process a lot smoother. As I said, it takes time and it's hard but I'm sure you can do it! The only thing that is really, really important is: It all depends on you! Don' ever forget that! If you want to forget someone, then you will, there is no doubt! Even if it takes a long time, even if you have to be really strong...you will be! In that kind of situation we usually find out that we are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for! So believe that. Believe that, take a deep breath and move on! Your life's waiting for you, baby!
Saturday, April 17, 2010
The Art of Letting Go.
One reason why people get so sentimental
It’s because memories are the only things that don’t change
when everything else does..
There are things in life that you can’t hold on forever,
No matter how much you fight for it. Sometimes destiny isn’t always good
it becomes playful.
When you meet someone you learned to love, you thought that it was
destiny that made your paths cross.
But what if making your paths cross is just a part of the game that the
playful Destiny creates? Making you realized that the person you thought
that was destined for you wasn’t really meant to stay..
But only destined to make you feel love and leave you
when you’ve already fallen.
It’s not easy to state a reason when you decide to leave you love.
Some might think it’s just an excuse..some might now believe.. some will blame you
Some might even be mad at you..
What they don’t see is the fact that it hurts you more to hurt someone
Who doesn’t deserve to be hurt. Especially when you can’t actually state the
reason why you have to leave.
You can never own something that was never yours… so let’s stop gripping
on things that we expect to last forever.
NOTHING LAST FOREVER.. FOREVER IS A LIE.. EVERYTHING IS TRANSITORY.
So while you have something in your hands. Put in your mind that it’s just borrowed.
So that someday when its gone, it won’t take you eternity to let go..
when your feelings get strong for someone, its always wise
to stop for a while and give your heart a time to breath.
A time to use your mind and weigh the situation based
on reason and not emotions.
Because the saddest thing that can happen is when
one fall in love and the other wants nothing more than friendship
Love can sometimes be magic..but magic can be an illusion..
There are times that I wish that I was limited to certain emotions
so that I’ll never have to experience pain.
Never feel betrayed and disappointed, and never
gets my fragile heart broken.
But the same thing means that I’ll never know how it feels
to love and be loved in return..
The thought of it kind of scares me..
TO HAVE A HEART THAT’S WHOLE BUT NUMB…OR A HEART THAT’S BROKEN BUT REAL..
Someday we’ll all be looking back to those days we learned to love
get hurt, cry, and fight.
Maybe when that time comes we will be laughing at our old dumb selves
realizing how stupid we are to stand up
For things we knew weren’t really meant for us.
But I guess learning takes time, and mistakes make one’s journey fun..
Life is what we make it. Love makes the world go around.
So let’s live, love and take whatever pain it brings.
Though it’s hard to wait around for something that
I know will never happen…
It’s harder to stop when I know it’s everything I’ve always wanted.
But you know what? I’m glad..Im glad it happened
Because now I know the pain and the Art of Letting go…..
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Is He MR. RIGHT?
Think your Mr. Next has the potential to be Mr. Right? Before you leap without looking, take an honest inventory. See how many of the following five essential traits he possesses.
Dating Trait #1: He listens to you
The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthyof) being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You'll know he's listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things you've told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend's name, etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways.
Dating Trait #2: He connects with you easily
We've all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own, it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don't have to force anything, forgive anyone, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters. Instead, you communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility, and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of interaction, you are on to something really special.
Dating Trait #3: He wants the real you
So often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make a relationship work. In the right relationship, there's no need. You don't have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of you or your fabulous life. With the right partner, you're not only able to be yourself, but you're better able to be the best version of your most authentic self -- no compromises needed.
Dating Trait #4: He's trustworthy
A relationship without trust is doomed from the start. But a relationship with abundant trust? A fabulous foundation for real and lasting love! Built over time, trust is based on the simple belief system that your partner has your best interests at heart and will never intentionally hurt you (and vice versa). If and when you discover that Mr. Next is 100 percent trustworthy, you'll have no trouble giving your heart to him. In return, he'll most likely give you his heart and pave the way for a lasting, loving relationship to unfold.
Dating Trait #5: He enriches your life
In the wrong relationship, your partner tears you to emotional shreds, brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right relationship, he enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self, and brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You'll know Mr. Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you professionally, personally, and spiritually. And when he does, he may just be Mr. Right!
Does your Mr. Next possess all five qualities? If so, congratulations! You have done your homework, chosen wisely, and are now well positioned for relationship success.
If not, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back into the dating pool with a clearer understanding of who you want to date. Remember, finding your life partner isn't always easy, but by being clear, honoring yourself, and acting accordingly, you'll cut down on wasted time with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Next, and ultimately make room for Mr. Right.
Dating Trait #1: He listens to you
The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthyof) being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You'll know he's listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things you've told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend's name, etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways.
Dating Trait #2: He connects with you easily
We've all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own, it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don't have to force anything, forgive anyone, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters. Instead, you communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility, and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of interaction, you are on to something really special.
Dating Trait #3: He wants the real you
So often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make a relationship work. In the right relationship, there's no need. You don't have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of you or your fabulous life. With the right partner, you're not only able to be yourself, but you're better able to be the best version of your most authentic self -- no compromises needed.
Dating Trait #4: He's trustworthy
A relationship without trust is doomed from the start. But a relationship with abundant trust? A fabulous foundation for real and lasting love! Built over time, trust is based on the simple belief system that your partner has your best interests at heart and will never intentionally hurt you (and vice versa). If and when you discover that Mr. Next is 100 percent trustworthy, you'll have no trouble giving your heart to him. In return, he'll most likely give you his heart and pave the way for a lasting, loving relationship to unfold.
Dating Trait #5: He enriches your life
In the wrong relationship, your partner tears you to emotional shreds, brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right relationship, he enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self, and brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You'll know Mr. Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you professionally, personally, and spiritually. And when he does, he may just be Mr. Right!
Does your Mr. Next possess all five qualities? If so, congratulations! You have done your homework, chosen wisely, and are now well positioned for relationship success.
If not, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back into the dating pool with a clearer understanding of who you want to date. Remember, finding your life partner isn't always easy, but by being clear, honoring yourself, and acting accordingly, you'll cut down on wasted time with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Next, and ultimately make room for Mr. Right.
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